Most people going through rough times will ask the question, “How Can I Stop My Divorce?” There is no real catch-all answer or solution to the question; each marriage and each person is different. People always make mistakes. However, we can also learn from the faults and formulate solutions to win back a partner. By then, you avoid those roadblocks in the future.
The first common mistake is that a person will give lines that sound like reassurances. For example, saying that you will be better, or that things have changed, a sort of line that is hard to believe. It sounds desperate and truly insincere and makes you appear weak in the eyes of your partner. It does not matter how sincere you are or how much you think they want to hear it. “I have changed’ will not stop my divorce!”
What will work is to not say anything. There will not be much that will convince or reassure them. Actions are what is needed. Do not just say that you have changed, but put it into action. You should be cooperative in working with your partner and make an effort to fix your relationship.
Another mistake made is to engage in emotional blackmail. Saying “I love you.” is an obvious way to make it seem that you are attacking their weak point. That phrase is one of the most powerful. It carries so much weight and power, and it is something that should not be used lightly. Stay away from that line when trying to fix a failing marriage.
How can you convey your love then? You might ask how you can “stop my divorce” if you never say “I love you?” You should not say “I love you.” when you and your partner are in a weak emotional state. Save the line for when the marriage is settled. Otherwise, you will tax your spouse emotionally.
The next big mistake to make is to argue. “If they see their hypocrisy, that will stop my divorce.” Techniques of reason to change your spouse’s mind, or attempting to guilt them to your side, are destined for failure. One wants to be correct. Then, you convince your partner that you are right leading you to point out the failings of your partner. This sort of thing will only push you farther away.
The fix is to avoid arguments. Do not enter into a disagreement, and do not start one as well. All that will do is add to the problem. “How can not fixing the problem stop my divorce?” The root of the problem can only come to light if you remove the competition and need to win.
“So, how can I stop my divorce,” you may ask. The short answer is not to attack and to use actions over words. It will be through being strong and making changes that things will change. “Words will not stop my divorce. Logic and reason will only hurt, and I must act and solve the problems without lip service.”
