We fought yesterday. Today, the other person is gone. How do I say sorry now? It is too late. But I never thought that this would happen. So healthy. A subtle pain in the chest increased, and before medical help could arrive, my partner was dead. Now, what do I do? But you know, I was right yesterday. It all sounds like a nightmare now. Oh, God, this guilt will never go away. How does one say sorry to a dead body even if one was right?
Have you ever come across such a talk at any time in your life? Reconciliation Day is celebrated every April 2nd. The day comes for us to reconcile with the people we have some tiff or grudge with and have strained the relationship. The usual meaning of reconciliation is to patch up or resolve and bring the situation back to normal.
What I narrated in the first Para was a dramatization. That does not happen most of the time. But, it was illustrated only to bring your attention to what if something like this happens? So why not reconcile every grudge as soon as possible. Why wait for this day? Let us look at this from the other side of the mirror. Why not avoid all the fights? Why not kill the arguments before they begin to take shape? Because once arguments begin, the ego will take over, and prove that I am right, both sides will go to any length. The result is never a victory. It is always a defeat for both parties. It damages the relationships. It spoils the whole atmosphere, and there are no positives.
None of us want to admit that we might be wrong. That is human nature. Another crucial damaging element in arguments is non-listening. No one wants to listen to the other party. That creates further rancor. The best approach is – never to argue, and if an argument begins, try to kill it by all the means. If saying sorry helps right in the beginning, say that. If the argument can be deflected by a joke, please do that. And if the disagreements don’t stop and damage the relationship, go back and reconcile as soon as possible. Send hundreds of I am sorry e-cards if needed. But reconcile. Bitterness never helps. It is like a mineral. It always remains below the surface and, with little mining, comes out. It takes away the love from living. It makes living hell. To live heavenly on this earth, reconcile. Reconcile with all with whom you have a problem and cannot forget.
